“Each of us actually believes that things should be the way we want them, instead of being the natural result of all the forces of creation.” ~ Michael A. Singer, author of: The Surrender Experiment: My Journey into Life’s Perfection and The Untethered Soul: The Journey Beyond Yourself
Have you ever had a small worry about something that balloons into a huge worry and makes you anxious about something that initially seemed so trivial?
When we get a thought in our heads and then feed it with the thoughts of a negative outcome we make everything worse for ourselves. If we try to think only positive thoughts and hope for positive outcomes we are creating expectations that unless we’re lucky will lead to disappointment. Whether you catastrophise or look at situations with rose-tinted spectacles each way of thinking is unrealistic and too polarised to be a proper representation of how life works.
If you’re anything like me you’ll have noticed that oftentimes you’ll think about an upcoming situation so much that you dread it but then immediately after you’ll think that it wasn’t so bad and you unnecessarily created so much drama for yourself.
There’s only one way to prevent this from happening and that is to surrender to the thoughts you’re having and see them for what they are, do not change them into something other than what they are—thoughts! Surrender also to the events in your life and know that whatever is going on is happening for a reason and that the likelihood is you’ve probably blown it out of proportion.
Life is going to throw you so many opportunities, both good and bad, there’s nothing we can do about that, but what we can do is allow ourselves to be free to go with the flow of the experience. Life is easier that way, we don’t cling to ideas of our perfect reality, we realise that life is full of surprises and this allows us to be fully present no matter what is going on, from here we can then make sure we enjoy the positive things that happen and learn from the negative things as the latter can provide hugely important lessons for our development.
Life’s going to be full of surprises so isn’t it time we went with the flow and said yes?